What’s your truth?
Have you ever had that “set-adrift” or directionless feeling? Are you unenthusiastic about your work–whatever it may be–or feeling like the effort just ain’t worth it–no matter how much “effort” it really is? We all have ebbs and flows of enthusiasm in our routines, especially when we’ve been doing them long enough to notice that the more things change, the more they stay the same–and how much they stay the same.
But sometimes a deeper malaise exists (can you all tell I’m having a little bit of fun with thesaurus.com?) that goes beyond the normal heartbeat of commitment to our goals and habits. It can’t be solved with a good night’s sleep, adjustments to diet or exercise, or minor alterations to your routine. If your path is clear, but your feet aren’t moving on it, you might need to consider whether or not you’re on the right path. That’s when you need to find your truth.
Be Honest With Yourself. If what you’re doing isn’t working out for you, then you have to consider that it might not be what you ought to be doing.
What’s the value in continuing along the same road? In order to answer that, you have to find your truth. Your truth is that collection of ideas, thoughts, virtues, and values that make up the core part of you–these are the things you know to be true in your life (and bearing in mind that they are deeply personal, yet may not be universal truths). These truths are different than prejudices and go beyond religious tenets. They’re the ways you live your life at the unconscious level. Do you smile at people or scowl to warn them off? Do you ask for help or refuse it? Do you believe people are generally good, or generally awful?
What do you believe about yourself? Right now (I’ll wait), go ahead and brainstorm twenty things that are true of yourself. Even if they are, “I am generally vertical during the daylight hours” they still count.
Back yet? Okay, now out of those twenty, rate the top three–meaning those things that are true about you virtually 100% of the time.
Don’t tell me what you believe, show me what you do, and I’ll tell you what you believe. –Meteor Blades, DailyKos.com
(While DKos is a political site, and MB is only one user among hundreds of thousands, the quote is so profound that it transcends politics. Take its wisdom.)
Do your actions express or align with these truths about yourself? Take a few minutes and examine your day. How have you spent it? Did you get that half hour of exercise in? Did you get that nagging task done that’s been eating at you (was it painting the ceiling? Because I sooo get that)? How much “action” did your facebook profile see?
Do your goals align with your top three truths? Take another few minutes and examine your to-do list. How many items on it are tasks that will move you towards your truths? How many items on it are expressions of who you are, or who you want to be? We all have tasks that we have to do in order to keep the lights on and the motor running. In between those tasks, though, we have the ability to fill those spaces with the meaningful…or the mindless.
Are your priority tasks the ones that move you towards your truths, or away from them? Our priorities, like the tides, ebb and flow around the schedules of others in our lives. No man is an island, and no schedule is one, either. Even “rugged individualists” are still subject to the schedules of Mother Nature. But you are able to prioritize your goals and the tasks which move you toward them. But are you moving in a direction that carries you to the true things about yourself? Are you moving towards honesty, fighting to define yourself with truthfulness? Or are you letting other people and other priorities define you?
Where is your truth?
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